Tuesday, 17 November 2015

Things I never expected from childbirth and raising a child

1. How quickly you can change your mind about wanting an epidural
2. That hospitals think it's perfectly okay to do construction in the room next to a new mother with an 8 hour old baby
3. Bed sores....
4. That nursing with a bad latch can hurt more than labour itself
5. Losing complete sensation of your bladder is possible after childbirth, especially if you get an epidural and a catheter
6. You will have to measure your urine output to make sure your bladder is still working
7. If you a caesarean you can forget about bending over which means your lovely partner will have to measure your urine output for you
8. If you don't eat your hospital dinner within 45 minutes they will take it off you and sucks to be you, no dinner
9. You can go days, up to a fortnight with only a few hours sleep, especially when you're taking tramadol
10. Side effects of this may include not knowing where you are or who your husband is
11. You can also lose feeling throughout your body
12. This may make you think you're dying so you pace back and forward in your bedroom at 3am     hysterical because you're going to die
13. Blood.... so much blood
14. It is actually pretty easy to sleep through a baby crying if you're tired enough
15. Hating your partner is actually normal
16. Inductions don't always work... nor do your second or third inductions
17. Baby bodily functions can be quite funny
18. And really gross
19. A little baby puke on the bed won't stop you from going to sleep in it
20. It doesn't take long to get over the whole fragile baby thing, within a week you will be able to hold them one handed while bending over to find a burp cloth quickly

and they can be cute

Monday, 31 August 2015

Riley Vera

Riley Vera; born August 5 at 12:50am; 3515g; 50cm long; perfect.

Considering I had a relatively easy start and middle pregnancy the end was a complete rollercoaster. It all started at 36w when a routine appointment discovered my blood pressure had risen from a normal 125/75 to 180/90 which can be a sign of preeclampsia. Straight away my doctor started talking about an induction and I was sent off to the maternal fetal assessment unit (MFAU) to have myself and the baby monitored as well as a number of blood tests. I stayed over night and they concluded I did not have preeclampsia but pregnancy induced hypertension, and the only cure for it is to give birth but because I was otherwise healthy and there was no sign that my BP was affecting the baby they decided they would monitor me closely and try to keep me pregnant a bit longer.

Over the next three weeks I went to the hospital twice a week for appointments, tests and monitoring; sometimes more as I had another two overnight stays during this time. Once I got to 39w they decided it was time to induce me, my blood pressure was still high and I was considered full term so they figured it was a good time. My body had a different idea and the induction failed, after a very painful and uncomfortable 18 hours. After a lot of tears, anxiety drugs, yelling and begging the doctors let me go home for a few days before they attempted a different method of induction. This second method also failed, at this point a very nice consultant decided it was time to listen to my body and just let me keep progressing with the pregnancy to see if it would kick start labour itself. They agreed to give me until 41w before attempting another induction.

At my 41w appointment my body had not progressed any further so I was admitted again for my third attempt, 12 hours of induction and there was still no progression but they went and ahead and broke my waters because at this point they wanted the baby out. I was given a hormone to bring on contractions which worked, a little too well... I had contractions 2 minutes apart with her spine against my spine for over 15 hours. My original plan had been to wait until I was in active labour before getting an epidural but after an hour of back labour I caved and had one placed. The rest of the day was relatively uneventful, I did require a few top ups of the epidural as I kept forgetting to top it up myself and it would wear off. Not long after 11pm they examined me again and discovered I had still not progressed enough and there had been a few declines in the babies heartrate and I wasn't doing too well either so it was time for an emergency c-section.

After being given time to process this, sign consent and get prepped I was wheeled up to theatre ward where I was given a biiig topup for my epidural so I wouldn't feel any pain and then taken into the theatre room. James was scrubbed up and bought in to sit next to me. By this point I had been given so many different drugs I was very out of it, but I did keep reminding myself to try and talk during the procedure as I just remember I was worried James might have thought I died or something as I couldn't open my eyes. The c-section was no where near as bad as I thought it would be, I could feel everything that was going on but it didn't hurt, there was just a lot of tugging and pressure happening but I couldn't move my body, I could hardly move my arms at that point.

Riley was born at 12:50am, she was still covered in vernix and it was about a minute before she cried. They cleaned her off, wrapped her up and handed her to James who bought her over to me. I wasn't able to hold her until I got moved to recovery but I was able to look at her and talk to James while he held her.

My recovery was just as eventful as the birth, but that can wait for another time. More pictures, just because.


Monday, 6 July 2015


We finally got around to finishing the nursery! We had a lot of drama with getting it painted as the walls are in pretty bad condition but they are painted and just super fragile (already made a boo boo with them). We aren't to hang anything from them, even using hooks or blu tac and the paint will just chip off so it has made it a bit plain decoration wise but I am still really happy with how the room turned out.

Onward to photos while everything is neat and organised.

This is a little nook section we have in our living room. Since finding out I was pregnant I decided it would make a great little play area for the duck, easy to block off and will hopefully contain the mess to one area (right? lol). Since at the start the baby will be in our room I figured it would be easier if there was a changing/feeding station closer to the bedroom and in an area we would be majority of the time (plus it just won't fit in the nursery, I didn't realise how big everything was once put together). And this way I can watch Netflix from the comfort of my glider, priorities.

Here is the view into the nursery when you stand at the door. I love the mint wall, it is exactly how I wanted it to be and the best part is we have heaps of paint left over in both colours. The white boxes at the moment just have a spare pram blanket and also the baby carriers. The foxy man to the right is full of toys/plushies (so many already, really need to send out a PSA on not to buy more of those) and then the wire basket to the left just has random blankets that my cousin gave to us.

I got this cot from gumtree for $200 which is half price, it also included a bumper but I am all safety first so don't plan on using it anytime soon. We were given the dinosaur pillows as part of a wedding present, I love them and figured they would fit perfect with the non-themed room and what baby wouldn't love dinosaurs?

The chest of drawers (IKEA, duh) is full of clothing, bedding and towels. I love organising things so obviously I bought about 50 different storage boxes from IKEA to put everything in. I don't know if I will keep everything how it is, I really don't know how everything should be but for the time being it's all neatly put away and I know where to find everything but no doubt a lot of it will be reorganised, especially to make getting up at 3am a bit easier for me.

Thursday, 28 May 2015

Baby on a Budget

At around 15 weeks (time is now BB/AB, before baby or after baby) I had what we could probably call a breakdown. I was worried about money, whether or not I could actually function and look after a human, what it might do to our relationship and just about every other thing you could think of that a pregnancy might change.

This pregnancy wasn't the best timing for us, I've been out of work since December 2013 with only a few jobs in between so I haven't been bringing home the bacon which I hate. We've been doing well on one income, we have no problems paying our mortgage or our bills and we always have extra money to go out to meals etc so we aren't in a horrible situation but we were both hoping we would be in a better situation, especially having more of our mortgage paid off would have been nice.

My solution was to sell 3/4 of my belongings, and I did a good job of it. At the end I made about $3000 which is really good when selling second hand stuff. We've been using that money to buy all the baby stuff and we still have over $2000 in the savings account so we're doing pretty well. We pretty much have everything we need for the baby other than small things that I don't want to buy until the nursery is ready because I can imagine myself losing stuff like baby nail clippers (I found my purse in my underwear drawer yesterday so anything is possible at this stage).

A lot of the big purchases have been second hand - the cot, change table, my glider and the pram were all from Gumtree or Facebook groups and were all less than half price of the retail cost! My cousin gave me a capsule but it didn't work with the pram I wanted so I sold that and the money will cover the cost of a new one. I've been tracking a lot of the stuff I've bought second hand (I love lists) and we've saved a bit over $2000 by buying things second hand (and getting a capsule for free!).

My trick to buying online was using saved searches on Gumtree, it will email you when an item comes up. There were a few different cot's I liked (I used Choice to decide on a lot of the stuff I wanted, I might cover this in another post) so I set up searches for them and just waited. This did mean we started getting a lot of the nursery stuff early so it's been sitting around our loungeroom for a few months now but it's been worth having a bit of clutter when you look at the money you can save buying second hand.

I also joined a lot of buy and sell groups with the intention of selling my stuff but that is where I picked up the pram I wanted (in the exact colour I wanted too) for half price and a few other bits and bobs. Sometimes you just have to browse through all the bad posts to find something good.

My biggest tip to any mum to be is buy second hand, and then sell it once you're done with it! And don't buy into all the baby lists on things you need. Right now I don't know if we have too much or not enough but I am feeling pretty confident we're going to land in the middle and hopefully we won't have to rush to the shops just before closing because we forgot something vital! (note to self, buy nappies before baby is here)

Tuesday, 26 May 2015

31 Week Update

How far along are you? 31 weeks.

Cravings: No food cravings.

Weight Gain: 9kg (nearly 20lb) much to the horror of the judgmental dietician I had to see. I've been told to not gain anymore weight, you tell that to the baby.

Comments: Ran into someone I haven't seen in a long time and their first comment was "Wow, you're REALLY pregnant!". Also I remembered a funny one where someone told me to stop reading horror/thriller books because you don't know what it could do to the baby =/ I don't even...

Favorite moment this week:  Turning into a turtle always stuck on my back... oh you mean favourite and not something I hate.

Fears: SO MANY. I am leaking fluid (I have no reason to think this at all but it's something I am scared of happening).... or I won't make it to the hospital in time, going into early labour (or more scarily, going way overdue).

General mood: Giddy! Nervous! Tired! Jumbled!

Sleep: It happens, it's not always great but it's still happening some nights even it takes 2-3 hours to come to me and then I wake up at regular times (shout out to my bladder).

Things I was surprised by: Baby has turned head down already (and has been for a few weeks). It doesn't mean I am going to be early or anything, especially as the munchkin still has time to turn breech but it's pretty cool knowing the baby is doing what it knows to do. Also just what doctors can tell, like they know the baby is 3/5 engaged (which means babies head is slowly moving lower).

Things I am most looking forward to: A baby :D

What I think is really cool and crazy: Not sure if this is considered cool or crazy but I like knowing where baby is sitting about in me, I know where the butt is so when I am sitting or laying down I tend to rest my hands on it's butt and give it little pats.

Food Aversions: Nothing still, in fact I am back to liking foods I had stopped liking throughout the pregnancy (except for Maccas hashbrowns, they still make me gag).

Maternity Clothes: I'm finding less is fitting me, but luckily I don't go out much so I am fine for clothing out side of the house. Plus it's getting cold so jumpers and cardigans are my saviour.

Tuesday, 14 April 2015

25 Week Update

How far along are you? 25 weeks.

Cravings: Other than all the food, all the time? Nothing...

Weight Gain: Averaging between 5-6kg.

Comments: None still, lucky antisocial hermit me.

Favorite moment this week: Baby kicking lots while the midwife was trying to measure the heart rate. It just made me laugh because the duck was making it hard to read with non stop kicks and wiggling.

Fears: I have to do my gestational diabetes test again which I am not happy about having to redo.

General mood: Getting excited! I've been feeling the kicks a lot and I am enjoying them now especially since J was able to feel too! Still a little creeped out seeing my stomach move with the kicks though.

Sleep: It's only been 5 weeks since my last update but I can safely say I miss sleeping. I am starting to wake up a bit more, mostly due to cramps and pains in my joints. Also the lil duck is big enough to object to me sleeping mostly on my stomach so I've been woken up by getting a painful kick a few times now.

Things I was surprised by: How maternal I am starting to get! I felt weirdly lonely a few days ago when there was no movement and it made me realise that even though I still can't picture myself being a parent or anything, that I am really looking forward to our munchkin!

Things I am most looking forward to: Not having the hip/pelvis pain, gahhh. Being able to roll over in bed without the pain.

What I think is really cool and crazy: Knowing what is going on inside of me, I can now tell the difference between kicks and just general movement and also kind of predict when a kick is going to happen.

Food Aversions: Nothing, I have NO aversions to food so please, feed me.

Maternity Clothes: I've started moving up to my bigger sizing, but since the baby has moved up a bit I've found myself back to fitting in my normal size leggings although when at home I find it easier to go sans pants.

Sunday, 22 March 2015

Decluttering Life

While rambling on Twitter about the state of our house I was introduced to the KonMari Method, unfortunately with the way the Australian dollar is at the moment it seems quite expensive to get it but there are some good articles which sum it up here and here.I've slowly been going through the house decluttering (which is a nono according to KonMari, you should do everything at once but I would need to take lots of naps if that was going to happen). 

There are 3 bags of clothing waiting to be donated with one bag already in the bin. I hit my bookcase tonight and I was surprised at how easy it was to part with my books; between the books I culled tonight and all my cookbooks I've reduced my collection by nearly 100 books and we've gone from having 3 bookcases to just 1! I've been listing stuff online for sale and in about two weeks I have made a bit under $1500, with majority of the money going into a savings account for our lil duck. 

Having such active buy and sell groups as well as using Gumtree has made it easier because I now look at an object, decide if I want it or not and then think about the money I could get for it and it just makes it so much easier for part with. I even went through the DVD drawer today and after looking on eBay discovered Anime holds up it's value so that will also be listed soon.

The next thing will be our office which is the most important since in a few months we will be moving out of it so we can have it repainted and new carpets laid in preparation of it turning into the nursery. The best thing about this is we can finally move all the nursery furniture out of our loungeroom and into its proper room! Another great thing about Gumtree is picking up some great deals, we have so far saved $608 by buying the nursery furniture second hand. I hadn't planned on having things so soon but I had set up saved searches but then everything we wanted suddenly started coming up at great prices we couldn't resist. Babies are expensive so I will take all the savings we can get and I don't find myself saying no to things that I normally would so I am all for more cheap and free things!

I am all for decluttering now, not only is our house having more space and looking better we are making money to be later spent on a million and one different things for the spawn!